Our bodies have shifted, making our lives come to a stand still and the things that used to be reachable are out of sight entirely. We see the world around us and the cultural norms of what an idealistic life should be in every aspect pass us as if it has forgotten us. We may or may not have chosen certain routes, but yet it still seems upsetting to feel that we don’t have the option of even saying yes or no. The option of having a say in our timeline, seems laughable in away. Chronic illness can seem to take control of a lot of our situations, including our overall timeline and how our life plays out. Below are ways to shift our timelines to be what we desire within our new world.
As individuals in this life, we look to those that are similar age or with similar ambitions to figure out where we should be at, what our goals for the next few years should be, if we have the best of what could be. As an individual with chronic illness, we often feel mentally that we want to be a part of those goals and that life, but realistically our bodies hold a different more pressing perspective of life. No matter what your chronic illness is, you find yourself standing still even if for a moment as people seem to gather their lives “seamlessly.” No matter the stage in your life or what it looks like, whether you have the perfect job or aren’t working, if you are married or not, if you are in your twenties or in your sixties, it can be jolting to your reality, but it doesn’t have to affect every aspect of the realities of your timeline.
We go through different stages of figuring out what is happening to us, the realities of what is about to happen, and what our life looks like. As time goes on the impression of these things seem to get greater and greater. We see the details of the differences between us and the world and what our world should have looked like. This is where we have the power to take control, to grab our timeline and make it something unique. It may not look like the worlds, but we have the ability to figure out how to stand up for it in such a strong way to make our new reality beautiful and our time lines our own that we are proud of.
How to create our best timeline?
We have different stages of grieving within our body so make sure to set the limits of what you can’t do based on your personal understanding of self. At the end of the day you are the only one to truly know what your limitations are. Having patience for the journey and with yourself is key. Understanding that our timelines will shift and change, and like all others we truly have no clue what the world will hold. There will be several stages and processes within this life, along with the face that you yourself will change, so making sure you are patient and setting realistic timelines that are flexible will help.
Standing in Confidence:
There is a difference between standing within life and being grounded in life. We all have a perception of ourselves and where we should be, but what is it that we are really chasing? Figuring out what you stand for, who you are, what your life actually looks like, and what you feel you have power over to create your timeline. Having goals that we set for our lives and not discrediting anything that we desire creates timelines. Write down the things that you want and yes they may not come in the way or the time you thought, but never believe you are not worth having something. Chronic illness is not a power that we may have asked for and it has its limits, but it grounds us in being stronger in the individuals that we want to be, rather then the ones that are perceived or that we feel we should be.
Social media, realities of life, whatever it may be, warps our view of what life should be. It sets standards upon us that usually aren’t realistic when having chronic illness. When figuring out how to look at these outlets, consider the simple idea of encouraging someone else who is doing something incredible within their life, because their successes in no way take away from you or your successes. Each of our lives is very different from one another and it is important to uplift people and figure out how we can be uplifted at the same time by others to have the best life within our own world.
It May Happen:
Don’t ever have an individual tell you that you need to be ok with something you aren’t ok with. Others may have an expectation for you, but don’t let them. Each individual on this earth has gone through very different experiences on so many levels, so create a perspective of your timeline that fit you. Others are going to have perceptions and expectations based on their own personal experiences. Let them know how you feel, and let them know how they can be a part of your timeline without dictating it.
Faith is a very personal experience and there are so many interpretations of what it means. Sometimes having faith within our own strength is what may be needed, while other times it is finding strength in a higher power. A powerful tool many with chronic illness have used is allowing for the idea that we have no control over our timelines and what is happening to us, giving that upset and worry to something else to watch over. This is a decision that is based on your faith and your interpretation of faith. It isn’t always the only solution, but rather a piece to help create the best timeline. Also having faith in yourself is important because you can get through whatever is thrown your way!
What was the biggest shift within your timeline and how did you become ok with it not being on your time lines?
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