What does it mean to create a beautiful life, when you have chronic illness?
When we feel like our life is hardly beating, surviving in the chaos our body itself created, it is hard to consider the fact that our lives can be pulled from this current mess enough to filter in a life we love. Those who have chronic illness go through a phase within the journey where the ability to create a good life or even a life is not a possibility. We are so focused on the current situation of what is actually happening during this time. As we find ourselves standing still with the life we once knew falling at different speeds around us. We feel the weight of not only our personal selves trying to pull to grab onto something but the weight of each piece of familiarity that slips quickly from us. This is temporary. Once we are able to understand our body a little more and what is happening to our world, we are able to steady our feet, even if not fully and start moving within this new life. Senses start to figure out how to embed in this unknown landscape, not as fast as most the world, but gathering fallen pieces to build something different. We reshape our lives based on what we knew, what we now know, and what is unknown. Even though our world seems to be in pieces, we start to find flowers growing in the rubble. This allows us to create a beautiful life despite chronic illness. It is a life of broken pieces that are going to be very familiar too quickly, but it can be a world that we can create something beautiful out of the overwhelming and unwanted world to see light again, to become aware with our senses again and to regroup to the understanding of who we want to be. A life you love can be created individually, despite this unwanted gift we have received.
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How can you create a life you love?
Understanding that it is ok to be happy!
We often are taught that it is ok to be sad in this world because the world usually requires strength. Projected sadness is a gift, strength is a gift, happiness is a gift, but we all have those gifts. When we are given a chronic illness people often assume or create a projection that we have to be sad or down in order to not be doing well or struggling with a chronic illness. They don’t realize that our happiness isn’t a string attached to our chronic illness. Give yourself permission to cry when you need to cry in the boundaries you have personally set with others, but also give yourself permission to laugh, to be happy, to embrace the emotions of joy! Even if you are in the ER (Emergency Room) and your sibling says something to try to cheer you up, you can feel whatever you want in any situation. Give yourself a gift by not shutting out your happiness. We are already struggling to figure out how to have constant strength in this situation, so allowing yourself to have any emotion and allowing ourselves to share it when we want to share it despite others judgments, is crucial.
Redefining and seeking your definition of what a beautiful life means.
Every single person has a very different perspective on what the definition of beautiful is. The perspective that we have maybe on what our past look like. We understand what our past looked like and the makeup of what made it beautiful, making the transition to the new life difficult. Sometimes we just want one more breath of the past, of our past bodies. Figuring out what defines a beautiful life now, even if it means completely redefining what beautiful means to you currently will be key to future happiness. Seeking beauty within chronic illness, will allow you to set aside the ideals of the past, but recognize the beauty in the moment and the future. It is a lot harder to do than say, and may take time to figure it out, but continue to try to redefine the definition till you have it figured out.
Have the courage to let go of the things that you can’t change.
We can’t change things we don’t have control over. Life itself brings challenges to anyone in any situation. These challenges are pieces we can’t control and can be overwhelming, yet when chronic illness is then added to the mix, life seems too much when challenges arise. Sometimes the unnecessary stress requires boundaries, cutting it from our lives, or simply not giving it the brain space it craves for. Figure out how to find what you need to bring you back to the enjoyment of life and not get dragged off in one direction or the other by unnecessary stress.
Don’t set unknown limits.
When facing a chronic illness, we hear constantly about the “what we shouldn’t do” and the “can’t dos.” We face the challenge of what we personally know our are limits, but when outside sources seem to create a greater limit boundary we feel overwhelmed by the lack of potential for our situation. Yes, there will be limits, days of limits or even weeks of limits, but understanding that we don’t have to set limits that are unknown is ok. We are individuals facing similar issues to others, but it will look very different on each of us, so don’t set limits on the “what ifs.” With that said you don’t want to push yourself in a direction that allows you to make poor decisions. So if you are wondering if you can do something or not, not only check in with if you should, but also take baby steps so chances of something going bad are less likely to happen. Don’t set the limits of your life based on unknowns, but also make sure that you are making the best choices for your life that are healthy, happy choices.
Now go find create your version of a beautiful life!
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How do you create a life you love despite chronic illness?
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